You Are In The Right Place...
Are you tired of feeling stuck in life and in your most intimate relationships?
Do you often feel flooded with emotion because you’re misunderstood, overwhelmed, or you just don’t feel like yourself?
Do you want to experience relief and happiness?
Hi, I’m Devon DuBois... and I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#87052) based in sunny San Diego, California. I am a native San Diegan and I am passionate about animals, traveling, art, culture, and relationships. I am so PASSIONATE about relationships, that my practice in Mission Valley, San Diego, is centered around them.
I help people overcome feelings of anxiety, sadness, fear, or loneliness, so that they can feel loved, empowered and whole, and deeply understood.
I’m here because I am eager to help individuals and couples create safety, security, and connection in their relationships and in their life. I’m also here to help people move through difficult life transitions in the most positive, adaptive, and healthy ways.
Overcoming adversity and struggle can be one of the most freeing experiences in the world. To feel supported, connected, resilient, and truly happy with yourself and with your partner will help you to feel lighter and more equipped to take on the “peaks and valleys” of life.
The journey to find happiness; however, can often feel exhausting, overwhelming, and just plain scary. Without the proper support and tools, it’s easy to feel powerless and alone. It is not uncommon to believe that there TRULY is no light at the end of the tunnel. Feeling this level of hopelessness can then lead to feelings of anger, worry, panic, and despair; and that can be painful for everyone involved.
That’s why I’m here to help you find a way out of the darkness, teach you how to understand and communicate your needs, and to show you how you can experience more happiness in life and in your relationships.
My Personal Journey...
There was a time in my life when I was feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and just plain fearful of what my future held.
"Why won’t these feelings go away? What is happening to me?"
These are just a few of the questions many of us wrestle with- and I was no different.
I struggled to find relief. I struggled to find myself. And I struggled to overcome many difficult life transitions.
I had more feelings than I knew what to do with and it was incredibly scary.
I was 16.
My life changed when I discovered a way to overcome my fears and create a version of me that I loved.
Well, I saw a therapist.
I knew I wanted professional help outside of my family and friends. I needed a trusted ally to help me overcome my struggles and support me along the way.
I realized that I could not “do it alone”-- I realized, that I didn’t have to. To be human is to need others and that is not a weakness, but rather a strength.
Seeing a therapist positively impacted my life in so many ways. Through therapy, I began to have a deeper understanding of my feelings and what I was experiencing. I was able to find happiness, access support from my loved ones, and create positive and lasting change.
What I learned about myself through therapy, not only benefited me on a personal level, but on a professional level as well.
When the day came for me to put my therapist hat on for the first time, I knew I would be be able to help people- I knew I would touch lives. This is because I knew first-hand what it was like to struggle and experience grief, I knew how to appropriately and empathically respond to others pain, and I knew that therapy can be extremely helpful- I believed in the process.
My Professional Journey...
In 2010, I entered grad school. In my first quarter, I discovered Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). This model of therapy that was so congruent with my worldview that it was almost scary. I remember going to my first externship where I met one of the founders of EFT, Sue Johnson. Everything she said during those four days really resonated with me. She was saying things that I already believed to be true- things such as: “we are attachment creatures;” “learn to reach for the people you love;” “we depend on our loved ones to support us emotionally and be a secure base as we venture into the world to learn and explore;" The more we sense that we are effectively connected, the more autonomous and separate we can be.”
The research on the effectiveness of EFT was also impressive. EFT appears to move couples from distress to recovery in 10-20 sessions for 70-75% of cases, and creates improvements in 90% of couples coming in for therapy. I knew early on that this was the model for me.
Throughout these past eight years as a couples counselor in San Diego, I have immersed myself in the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model. I have attended, worked, and organized multiple EFT trainings in various cities. I was employed by TRI-EFT (the training and research center for Emotionally Focused Therapy in San Diego) for five years, helping EFT trainers manage the clinic and coordinate various trainings in California, Arizona, and Colorado.
I have also had the opportunity to give presentations and support other therapists on how to effectively use the EFT model. I’ve presented for the United States Navy, MOPS, The California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT), and The National Charity League (NCL).
I currently serve on the San Diego Center for EFT Committee (SDC EFT) board as a (Co)Marketing and Public Relations Manager.
I have worked with a variety of couples, families, and individuals- from all different walks of life. Throughout my career, I have found that EFT yields strong results. Whether you are pursuing premarital therapy, marriage counseling, individual counseling, family counseling, or couples therapy in San Diego, EFT can be extremely beneficial.
The journey hasn’t always been easy. Becoming a therapist, can be a long process. I spent countless hours and multiple years studying human behavior, attachment, love, and the human psyche. I was trained by world renowned EFT trainers and that has inspired me to start my own practice and touch lives.
Now that I am where I am truly meant to be, I am content. I am touched that people continue to welcome me into their lives in the most vulnerable ways. I am honored that couples trust me with their dreams, their fears, and their relationships.
Ultimately, it was the blending of my personal and professional experience that made me who I am today- someone who is determined to make this world a better place, even if it’s on a smaller and more personal scale.
And now I want to help you to find happiness.
The first step is simple.
Click on the button below and request a discovery call with me today and let’s do this together- one step at a time.
Specialty Training and Experience:
Over 3,000 clinical hours under supervision by an EFT supervisor
Emotionally Focused Therapy, Externship, 2011
Emotionally Focused Therapy, Externship, 2012
Emotionally Focused Therapy, Core Skills, Modules 1-5, 2012
Emotionally Focused Therapy, Core Skills, Modules 1-4, 2014
Broken Bonds: Healing Attachment Injuries with EFT
EFT in Action Training
Mastering first sessions with EFT
Alt-Sexuality, Kink, and Ethical non-monogamous relationship training
Critical Issues in Child and Adolescent Mental Health (CICAMH) Conference
Somatic Experiencing (SE) with Dr. Peter Levine
Certified PREPARE-ENRICH Instructor & Facilitator (Couples marriage preparation and enrichment), 2013
Worked at the Training and Research Institute for Emotionally Focused Therapy in San Diego (2010-2015)
San Diego Center EFT Committee (SDC EFT)- (Co)Marketing and Public Relations Manager
Therapy Services I provide:
Topics OR Issues I help with:
Blended Family Issues
Loss and Grief
Obsessive Compulsive (OCD)
Post Traumatic Stress (PTSD)
Pregnancy, Prenatal, Postpartum
Kink and Polyamorous Friendly